The familiarity of talking to a girlfriend;
The expert advice that will bring you results.

Get from where you are to where you want to be with one-on-one sexuality coaching.

One-on-one Sexuality Coaching in the comfort of your own home.

Goal-Oriented

Find ways to reach the type of pleasure, orgasm and intimacy you desire, with expert guidance and support. Coaching is short-term and oriented towards getting you from where you are now to where you want to be. We focus on the “how” rather than the “why”.

Personalized

Every session is tailored to your needs and goals. We get straight to the methods that will be effective for your specific goals and with a clear roadmap to get you there. There are no “shoulds” in this space, your truth and intuition always lead the way.

Practical

We make the most of our time together by building upon the progress you’ve done at home. You will get “homework” assignments and supplementary materials meant to support and enrich your sexual journey and help rewire your brain and body to serve your needs. Think of it as your own personal sex-education, specific to your goals.

Educational

Gain information and tools to help you advance towards a fulfilling, confident and joyful sex life. Get answers to your most intimate questions. Bust myths and gain real knowledge about the physiology of pleasure and desire.

Confidential & Safe

Open up about your sexual concerns and challenges and unpack your sexual experience without judgment and shame. This is a safe space- no subject is taboo, and everything is confidential.

Fun

Explore new pathways for pleasure and positive connection to your body and sexuality with a fun, casual and positive outlook.

What Are the Benefits of Working With a Sexuality Coach?

Feeling empowered to explore your sexuality and your body to learn what works and what doesn’t work for you.
Becoming more confident in your body, sexual expression and performance and learning to embrace your sexuality as it is.
Learning to relax into receiving pleasure, staying present and tuning into your body, and allowing pleasure and orgasm.
Developing sexual communication skills so you can ask for what you want in bed and navigate conversations about sexual needs, desires and boundaries.
Learning to value and appreciate your sexual satisfaction (as much as your partner’s).
Understanding how sexual response and sexual desire work and rekindling your interest in sex and intimacy.
Becoming aware of and overcoming sexual shame about your body, sexual response, desires, fantasies, STIs and sexual experience.
Confronting and unpacking insecurities about your body, desires, fantasies, capabilities and performance as a lover.
Navigating unequal levels of sexual desire in a relationship.
Addressing and overcoming sexual pain.

Meet Your Coach:

Rachel H.P

Sexuality Educator & Coach

Rachel is passionate about empowering women to understand, trust and love their bodies and unleash their pleasure potential. 

She offers practical tools and information to help you explore what brings you pleasure and navigate the obstacles to sexual fulfillment. She creates a safe space for you to open up about your wants and needs and lets your intuition and truth lead the way. Together you will create a plan to take you from where you are to where you want to be.

Rachel’s own struggles with pleasure led her on an empowering journey of introspection and discovery which inspired her to want to help other women like her and ultimately led her to become a sex educator and coach.

She has a degree in gender studies and human sexuality and her specialty is the unique challenges that women face in their quest to gain sexual agency and pleasure in our culture.

Schedule a free consultation to see if coaching is right for you:

Frequently Asked Questions:

Sex Therapists are mental health professionals trained to provide in-depth psychotherapy and dive deep into the source of the client’s difficulties. Sexuality Coaching spends less time on the “why” and focuses instead on the “how”, getting you from where you are to where you want to be in a relatively shorter time and fewer sessions.
Sex therapists are best suited to treat clients with mental health concerns, such as depression, anxiety, drug abuse, and anyone who has experienced abuse or sexual trauma. Individuals that are in a high-conflict relationship or high levels of dysfunction are also best suited for sex therapy. If I deem I am unfit to support you on your journey, I will do my best to provide you with a referral.

All sessions are conducted virtually via Google Meet- a secure video conferencing software. When you schedule a session you will get a link. All you need to join is tap the link. You can join from any device, even if you don’t have Wi-Fi or data. You can choose to keep your video on or off. If you prefer, sessions can also be conducted by phone.
Virtual meetings allows you the flexibility to have sessions when and where it suits your schedule.

As our mission is to narrow the gendered pleasure gap, our services are only offered to women or people with a vulva. That is also where our expertise lies. If you are looking to support a woman or vulva owner in their sexual journey, you may share a link to our services or buy a voucher for them as a gift. For vouchers or any other question please email: Rachel@ThePleasureGap.com.

At the moment we only provide one-on-one coaching to women or vulva owners. However, private sessions are an excellent space to unpack and address sexual concerns that may be affecting your dynamic with your partner/s. It is often easier to learn and process change as an individual, and then use that to help strengthen and enliven your intimate and sexual dynamic with a partner. Our sessions are tailored to your needs, so if you wish to find ways to have more pleasure, confidence, sexual communication, or intimacy in your relationship- look no further. If and when you decide you wish to include your partner in on your sexual journey, our “homework” assignments can help you work with your partner so you can grow together.
If your main reason for seeking coaching is to address conflict in your relationship, you will likely benefit from speaking to a couples therapist or a sex therapist that has training and experience supporting high-conflict dynamics.
If you’re still unsure if coaching is right for you- don’t worry. You can schedule a free confidential consultation where we can figure it out together. If I am unfit to serve you, I will do my best to refer you to someone who can.

We’re unable to accept insurance. However, we aim to keep our rates accessible, between 90-120$ per session, depending on whether you buy a single session or a package. Sexuality Coaching is goal-oriented and fast paced, so you can see results within a few months or less, depending on your goals. The majority of the process happens in between sessions, through at-home assignments and supplementary materials homework. Think of it as your own personal sex education, specific to your goals. This “homework” is meant to support and enrich your sexual journey, and start rewiring your brain and body to serve your needs. It also allows us to make the most of our time together, as we can build upon the progress you’ve done at home. We are committed to your success and will work as slow or as fast as you need.

  • Confronting and unpacking insecurities about your body, desires, fantasies, capabilities and performance as a lover.
  • Becoming more confident in your body, sexual expression and performance and embracing your sexual identity.
  • Learning to value and appreciate your sexual satisfaction (as much as your partner’s).
  • Learning to relax into receiving pleasure, staying present and tuning into your body, and allowing pleasure and orgasm.
  • Understanding how sexual response and sexual desire work and rekindling your interest in sex and intimacy.
  • Navigating unequal levels of sexual desire in a relationship.
  • Developing sexual communication skills so you can ask for what you want in bed and navigate conversations about sexual needs, desires and boundaries.
  • Feeling empowered to explore your sexuality and your body to learn what works and what doesn’t work for you.
  • Addressing and overcoming sexual pain.
  • Becoming aware of and overcoming sexual shame about your body, sexual response, desires, fantasies, STIs and sexual experience.

Sexuality-coaching, as any form of self-help, takes time, energy and money. The only real measure of whether this investment is right for you is how much you want to cross the bridge from where you are now to where you want to be in your sex life- and how fast and effectively you want to get there.
There are countless resources out there providing you biased, misguiding, shaming or outright wrong advise about how to get the sex life or intimacy you desire.*
When working with a coach you get straight to the methods that will be effective for your specific goals and with a clear roadmap to get you there. You deserve to reach your goals, and a sexuality coach helps hold you accountable to them.
*There are also many sex-positive, evidence-based, empowering literature and other resources that can benefit your sex life greatly and potentially get you to where you want to be.
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Sexuality-coaching sessions are private virtual sessions that provide ongoing emotional support and strategic guidance for your sex life and relationship (if you’re in one). Sexuality Coaching is short-term and goal-oriented, helping you get from where you are to where you want to be. The sessions are a safe space for you to open up about your sexual concerns or challenges, ask questions, and unpack your sexual experience without judgment and. It is also a space where you can start unpacking and working towards what you want your sex life and relationship to be like, with expert instruction. You will gain information and tools to help you advance towards a a fulfilling, confident and joyful sex life. Every session in tailored to your needs and goals. There are no “shoulds” in this space, your intuition and truth always lead the way.

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The HerPleasure Workshop and Rachel HP are amazing! Rachel gives you the ins and outs of anatomy and biology & the understanding of the journey to pleasure. She creates a comfortable space to relax and enjoy the process of learning and sharing. Whether you have lots of experience or are just starting your journey I highly recommend it! 

— Emily J.

I used to think that I would never have an orgasm with a partner and that I should settle for what I was getting in my sexual encounters but I learned that I had many beliefs and fears holding me back from truly exploring myself sexually. Rachel helped me overcome my fear and I now feel like a new woman. Thank you, Rachel!

— Michelle